I want to check that SQL Server is running on the Database server but I cannot see the server name in the list of servers
If there is a firewall or a DMZ boundary between the Interviewing server and the Database server, you might not see the name of the Database server in the list of SQL Server displayed in the Create a New Data Source to SQL Server dialog. Just type the name of the Database server into the Server box and the connection request will generally be allowed.
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